Friendship is a relationship that all the individuals can create by themselves. Though it is not a god gifted relationship like that of the relationship of a mother, father, sister, brother or any of the other family but still it is one of the best relations an individual can possess. People who have true friends consider themselves as the luckiest individuals on earth.
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.” – C.S. Lewis.
We do not make friends because they are useful but the bond of friendship, once it grows stronger and stronger has a number of positive aspects. There are certain secrets that can only be shared with our friends only. When we are facing a difficult situation in our lives, only true friends come forward to help us overcome all the difficulties.
Every friend is important and their importance in known to us when certain situations arise which can only be solved by our friends. One can never feel lonely in this world if he or she is surrounded by true friends. On the other hand, loneliness prevails in the lives of those who do not have friends despite of billions and billions of people present in the world. It has been truly said that “A friend in need is a friend indeed.”
Friendship is a beautiful bond by all means but while making friends, it is essential to keep in mind that one should always be aware so as to differentiate between true friends and false friends.
True friends are committed and stand by your side even in the rough phases of your life. False friends on the other hand are truly examined only when difficulties knock your door. Most of them show you their back and join hands with either your enemies or with other successful people. One should always try to maintain a distance from false friends. False friends are those who support you in times when you are rich and famous. As soon as fame and riches leave you alone, false friends also act as if they do not know you; you become stranger in their eyes. It has been said that only a difficult situation in life can make individuals realize who their true friends are and who their false friends are. It is always advisable to stay away from such individuals in order to maintain your peace of mind.
It is extremely essential to be capable of making proper choices in life especially when we are interested in choosing the group of friends we want to support and be with for the rest of our lives. Choosing proper friends is a bit difficult task but not impossible. We should have a group of friends who are disciplined and punctual individuals. This is essential because of the reason that we start becoming like the people we hang out with most. If for example one or two of our close friends are involved in bad habits such as smoking, drinking and taking drugs, sooner or later we will follow suit. This is the reason why it is advisable to make a proper choice when it comes to making friends. True friendship is as a matter of fact a blessing enjoyed by a few. Those who have it should thank God for having true gems in their lives and those who do not have a few good friends should constantly strive for new ways to secure good friends. No company is better than having a friend by your side in times of need. You will remain happy in your one room apartment if you are surrounded by your friends; on the other hand, you cannot find happiness even in your mansion if you are alone.
There are times when your family fails to solve all the problems of your life; you can easily get out of these problems of yours if you are in communication with a few friends.
People who are lucky enough have a group of amazing friends who support them in facing all the hardships and adversities of life. Having a single good friend helps an individual to overcome all the hurdles in his or her lifetime. On the other hand if an individual does not have a single good friend life automatically turns hard. Securing true friendship is extremely essential to become successful in all the areas of life. I pray that everyone everywhere is surrounded by at least one or two good friends throughout their life.
The following lines of a famous poem best describe friendship:
“Best friends stick together till the end,They are like a straight line that will not bend.
They trust each other forever,
No matter if your apart you are together.
They can be your hero and save the day,
They will never leave your side they are here to stay.
They help you up when you fall,
Your true friends are best of all.”
To sum up, it can be said that love, the most amazing feeling on Earth is incomplete if it is not supported by friendship.
Friends have a strong influence on our actions, especially in our youth. “They will influence how you think and act, and even help determine the person you will become.”1 And when you choose good friends, “they will be a great strength and blessing to you. … They will help you be a better person and will make it easier for you to live the gospel of Jesus Christ.”2
On pages 26–27 of this month’s New Era, Elaine S. Dalton, Young Women general president, teaches the importance of seeking and being a good friend. “Seeking another person’s highest good is the essence of true friendship,” she says.
Building friendships on these principles will help youth form lasting relationships and social skills that go beyond merely becoming “friends” on social networking sites. As a parent you can help your children understand the importance of being a good friend and of choosing friends who will encourage them to live the gospel. The following suggestions may be helpful.
Suggestions for Teaching Youth
As a family, search the scriptures for examples of good friends. Discuss what qualities made those friendships strong. Consider David and Jonathan (see 1 Samuel 18–23), Ruth and Naomi (see Ruth 1–2), and Alma and the sons of Mosiah (see Mosiah 27–28; Alma 17–20).3
Review the section on friends in For the Strength of Youth. Share with your teens how friendships influenced your life. Invite them to share how they have influenced and been influenced by their friends.
Read Sister Dalton’s article in this month’s New Era. Talk about the goal her daughter, Emi, set to seek good friends. Help your children set goals about the type of friends they want to seek and be.
Consider holding a family home evening to share ideas for building friendships, such as: “To have good friends, be a good friend. Show genuine interest in others; smile and let them know you care about them. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, and refrain from judging and criticizing those around you.”4
Suggestions for Teaching Children
Being a friend includes helping others. Read “Standing Up for Caleb” in the March 2009 Friend and talk with your children about ways they can be kind to everyone they meet.
In all situations, we have to decide what kind of friend we’ll be. Sing together “I’m Trying to Be Like Jesus”5 and then talk with your children about how they can choose to be a good friend, like the Savior, in various settings.